Howdy, and welcome to the first entry of the "How not to date the guy I want to date, but who I will severely regret having dated no less than 24-48 hours after we agonizingly and inevitably break up" blog, or as a guy would call it, the "How not to date a total jerk" blog. Our hope in this blog is to provide you with some insight (mixed with inane soliloquy) into how to identify the right type of guy through certain clues he gives. It is not necessarily about his external affinities, i.e., sports, ranching, mechanics, computers, music, pizza consumption, etc..., but rather it is more about what resides at his core.
When I was dating, and I suppose even now, it drove me crazy when a nice girl would date the wrong guy. She didn't know it at the time, but she certainly learned it down the road. The main problem has always been the same, namely the guy did not truly walk with God, but the manifestations differed. There was the "bad guy" that the girl was certain she could reform, there was the "pretty boy" who was quite concerned with his appearance but little else, and there was the "religious guy" who knew all the "holy" things to say and was typically cool to boot. Inasmuch as they all present their own quandaries, it seems like girls get duped more with the "religious guy", whereas the other two types, in all honesty, were personal and intentional choices of the girl. So it is important for the well-intentioned gal to watch out for this guy. In truth, there is quite a difference between a true follower of God and the "religious guy", but that difference is not always readily apparent on the outside. In fact, often times the "religious guy" looks more "Christian" than the more mature believer. But, don't be fooled, stay in the word of God and in prayer, and consider what mature believers counsel, and you will have discernment as to who is real. The true Christian man is not tame, nor is he "safe" in the sense of doing what everyone else does, instead he seeks his God alone, who is neither "safe" nor tame. So hold on, true adventure belongs only to the Christian, and when you find such a man (and we will do our best to help) you will never be satisfied with "bad", "pretty" or "religious" again. It should be interesting...
Lance
